There comes a point in recovery, and in life, when we are asked to stop running. Step Four invites us to take a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Not to judge, not to punish, but to see clearly. To stop negotiating with the past and begin accepting it. This is where the Serenity Prayer moves from words to action.
Acceptance is not resignation. It is the beginning of freedom.
In this month’s newsletter, I’d like to explore what it means to live with that kind of acceptance and how it shapes our understanding of ourselves, our past, and the path forward. I’ll also share reflections on purpose, resilience, and the ongoing journey of recovery, along with a few resources and opportunities to stay connected.
As always, I invite you to take what resonates and leave the rest, one day at a time.
The fourth step in the Alcoholics Anonymous program reads, “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” The founders of the program, being alcoholics themselves, realized that all alcoholics are guilt-ridden and shame-ridden individuals, and that without an attempt to resolve these feelings a return to drinking is almost inevitable. Therefore, a method was developed to work on these issues, starting with a thorough self-evaluation. Willingness to take this step is essential. Courage is called for, in greater measure than most people think they have. Where does one find such courage? It comes from the program itself. The newcomer has already accepted the call to adventure of the heroic journey of recovery by agreeing ...
This month’s meditation is designed to help one to focus on equanimity and purpose, by using the Serenity Prayer. In my blog I wrote about the importance of finding equanimity and purpose in life.
Sit quietly in a comfortable location, eyes closed. Try to feel quiet and peacefulness within your body. Recite the Serenity Prayer silently to yourself. As you do so focus on key words and phrases, starting with “God,” thinking about however you understand this word. Repeat the prayer thinking about how “Serenity” can lead to “acceptance of things I cannot change.” When ready you may move on as you repeat the prayer to “courage to change the things I can.” Think about a change that you would like to see happen in your life. Is this something that you can change? Can you change it now? If not, could you ever change it? If not, focus on having “the wisdom to know the difference.”
In general, there are two categories of things: those that have to do with you, and those that have to do with the rest of the world. Most of what you can change has to do with you. Most, but not all, of what you cannot change has to do with the rest of the world. Meditate on these ideas until you are ready to move on with your day. If useful thoughts have come to you, write them down immediately, and refer to your writing later on. I suggest doing this practice daily for thirty days. Afterwards, journal about what you have learned, what actions you can take, and whether you want to continue with the practice.
My Blog - Reflections on Mortality, Purpose, and Acceptance
One of life’s enduring challenges is coming to terms with our mortality. Popular culture often touches on this theme - sometimes humorously - suggesting that fear of death underlies many human behaviors. Joseph Heller in Catch 22 said that his character, Yossarian, planned to live forever or die trying. Over time, I have moved from anxiety about my own mortality to a more peaceful acceptance of it. A sermon delivered at my late .....
“Owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.”
~Brené Brown
“The sanest models of human growth regard crises, accidents, changes, and life transitions as challenges and opportunities of the highest order. If you can ‘pass through’ your difficulties, you will find yourself enlarged and renewed, with direction and
On the Bookshelf - Dancing in the Light by Thurman Strother
Many people who have a rather dramatic life story often hear, “You should write a book.” Such was the case with Derald Cochran who after many years of hearing this, did so. I reviewed his book, “A Tomb to the Light” in my November 2025 newsletter. Now I write about Thurman Strother, another man with decades of addiction recovery and in his case decades of working in the recovery field. He presents his book as the first in his “Retired Dragon Fighter” series. He begins his story with his childhood, a frightening and soul-damaging time during which he developed many...
Most people struggling with addiction—or supporting someone who is - don’t see themselves as heroes.
They see failure. Frustration. Uncertainty.
Part of my work is helping people see their story differently.
I speak about addiction recovery as a heroic journey. One rooted in purpose, courage, and transformation. My goal is not just to inspire, but to offer a perspective that people can carry with them long after the talk ends.
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• Treatment centers and recovery programs • Mental health and behavioral health professionals • Faith-based communities • Veterans groups
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If this message spoke to you, share it with someone who may need it. We heal in community. This month, take a moment to reflect. Gently and honestly. That’s where change begins.
Until next time, walk gently, with courage.
— Mike
Dr. Michael Cowl Gordon, Black Magic Ln, Marietta, GA 30064
